What is Conscious Parenting? By Grace Khleif
Conscious Parenting is not about a
set of rules for parents to follow but a set of beliefs about what children
need to develop and thrive.
Our children are our most precious gifts. Our job is to
provide them with a healthy environment to prosper, give them the support
needed to express themselves and teach them to connect with others in a loving
parents are emotionally intelligent parents; they have the ability to
make healthy choices based on accurately identifying, understanding and
managing their feelings and those of their children.
They are self-aware and have
the ability to know their own internal resources. Their strengths and
weaknesses, their emotional responses their self-expression and communication
They self-manage in a
healthy way. They have the ability for impulse control, they are adaptable,
manage their stress well, are positive and non-judgmental.
They are aware of their
children; they know their styles, habits, preferences and can connect to them
They manage their
relationships with their children well. They build rapport with them, listen
and communicate to understand and guide, create bonds and deal with conflict
ina healthy way.
Being a conscious parent doesn’t require you to change all
your parenting methods, it is simply an invitation for you to become mindful
and open minded, as you shift your thinking about what children need and explore
new methods to help you understand what is going on behind their behavior.
Young children especially those under six years old don’t
have a fully developed conscious mind. They are emotional beings who react to
feelings and sensations only. Give them the benefit of the doubt when their
behavior seems unwarranted. They simply react and perceive the world around
them differently than you.
We all are emotional beings and the words we say and the
sounds we make create feelings, images and sensations.Therefore, what we say to
our children and how we say it is very crucial? How we react and behave is of
utmost importance too. When they get hurt and we make light of their injury we
allow them to relax and feel safe. When we freak out, we scare them. How we react to their behavior creates
beliefs and as a result patterns of behavior are created. Whenever they feel
the same they react in the same way. Their reactions become habits that are
automatic and irrational.
How we learn to respond to life is driven by our
interactions with others and the patterns which are set up in early childhood
form the basis of our future relationships. Once we become self-aware; watch
our language and expectations and self-regulate; manage our relationships well
we become emotionally intelligent role models.
Conscious parenting increases your child’s trust in the
world and cultivates the environment your child needs to develop and thrive
mentally, physically, and emotionally. Therefore, fill the hearts and minds of
your children with compassion and acceptance. Teach them understanding,confidence,
and respect. Then watch become healthy, stable adults.